Bloggers of a Feather Should….

Found this headband in my daughter’s room and I do
not know where she bought it!!

Every day I take some time to curl up with a fashion magazine. It is the largest one available with incredible pictures… a variety of individual voices and different points of view…more ideas than I thought possible…and on top of all of this, a personal touch. I can actually meet and get to know new friends through this magazine.

The magazine is called the blogosphere! There I discover so many different voices and see inspiration from around the world. If I want to experience Spain, Paris, or Montreal, I have friends who will take me there. Like most successful magazines, I can spend time with clothes, interior design, cooking, travel or even crafts. How much I want from it is endless and completely up to me and the time I choose to give.

Jacket: Macys Clearance $11!
Blouse: Coldwater Creek
Lee Jeans: Kohls
Old Navy Flats

This is how I believe all bloggers should look at what we do….as employees of one big publication. Recently, I have read several emails and blogs voicing frustration with other bloggers for one reason or another. I realize girls will be girls and there will be a little hair pulling, but, really, why are bloggers competitive with one another? We each have an individual voice and mission that we can bring to the entire publication. The more of us that are successful, the more readers we will attract to what we are doing. More blog readers, even on another site, can only benefit the whole.

Simply Vera Bracelet: Kohls
Watch: Target

Who cares if one has more followers…or one does not take comments…or one thinks she is better than others? The one who thinks they are better will most likely disappear soon…pride cometh before the fall.

But, if we support one another and work together, then our whole “publication” will be successful and fly off the stands! I am choosing to focus on what I do…who I desire to reach…and making this blog the best it can be. I choose to support others who do the same, because we can sharpen and build up one another. That can only be a good thing!

With this in mind, I would like to thank Collette of Statements in Fashion for her recent help with my blog and to thank Reva of Revas Rags 2 Roses for sending me two beautiful scarves she no longer wanted.  That’s the real blogger support system I have come to know and love!


  1. Such thoughtful insights, Pam, as always. And so true. While I am not immune to "blog envy," I try to use it productively, deciding if the twinges of "Oh, look what SHE is doing" are telling me that there is some new direction in which I want to go. If not, I focus on developing my own voice while admiring and appreciating the others. I love the way you've described that process here.

  2. I agree! There's room here for all of our voices, and we all have something to contribute! I like to think we're all part of one big team, and the support I've witnessed between bloggers (often who have never met IRL) is just amazing. The knot bracelet is a unique and stunning piece, and the colors in your blouse are some of my favorites.

  3. You've read my mind, but said it so much better, Pam. Esp. at this point in our lives, it is wonderful to put the competitiveness aside and to support each other. There's so much to go around, plenty for all! I love your analogy of the fashion magazine. Love your feathers too : >

  4. Pam, another post you need to submit to IFB Links a la Mode. You are on a roll! I try to let all that snarky business just fall away and focus on what brings me back to fashion and costume every time–love of beauty. Also I try to channel Bill Cunningham's joie de vivre and faithfulness to himself every chance I get.

    Also, I will delete the extra comment you left. You are so good, multitasking like that. I need to channel you too! XO, Jill

  5. I whole heartedly agree with you that we should support each other. I probably would not have as many followers as I do if not for several other bloggers who were so kind as to list me in their links. I truly look forward every day to seeing what everyone has written and is wearing.
    I do like what you are wearing today. The headband is similar to one I purchased from etsy and wore early in my blogging. Aren't they fun? Yours is in colors I love.
    Many years ago, I learned that someone I perceived as thinking herself better than others was not that way at all. Sometimes they are just shy or don't realize that their comments are not taken as they mean them to be taken.
    There are many bloggers who probably have a lot more money than I have (then again, maybe they are deeply in debt) and I try to just enjoy the beauty of their outfits and not feel envious. I have been lucky in the past to have earned a good living. Now, I am finding out that going to thrift stores is a lot of fun.
    Thank you for being a blogger who makes us think and challenge ourselves.

  6. Oh no. I hate hearing that. Even though I'm sure it exists, I'm really happy that I haven't had to deal with any of that. Ugh. We are all amazing in my eyes. I love getting to know everyone. And feel very lucky that you are one of my blogging friends at this huge publication!


  7. Yay for being supportive! I love your headband I liked the Kohl's bracelets so much I stopped in my local Kohl's to check out their jewelry. Alas there were no bracelets as stunning as the ones you're wearing.


    Your attitude is right on, spot on, and the only way we all can succeed is by building community not breaking it. Kudos.

    I agree with Jill- this needs to be in LALM.

    And god bless Reva- one for being Reva and two for being a sweetheart and sending you scarves. And Collette.

    and you- the blog looks so shiny and clean and crisp and chic!

  9. Dear Pam,
    I am so distraught that you may be referring to me as being unkind by my bracelet swap post. Please email me privately and let me know. If it is the case I will publicly apologize and take down my blog. I NEVER,EVER was considered a mean girl and at the age of 50 don't want to start being one now.
    Please email me

  10. Nice photos and really nice outfit, you look great, I love your jeans, what a great color and that jacket is so nice, the perfect touch to the outfit; your accessories also rock! Your blog is awesome by the way and I am a new follower! Hope you will like my blog and follow back!

    Pop Culture&Fashion Magic

  11. Love the feather headband,Pam. So Sassy!
    Initially, like Anne said, I had that blog envy stuff and jsut had to rise above it. Now I'm in a good place and love our community. And blogging and street style has its place now too–just as the fashion mags have their glossy high end fashion and pics.

  12. I guess it just what happens in any 'community' be it virtual or real. It's not always bad to have competition. I don't like excessive rudeness, but when I see a blogger take amazing photographs, I'm inspired to try to do the same.
    I love this outfit on you. The jeans are made for you, and the blazer + top is really perfect!

  13. I agree, the only way to make the blogosphere something more big & influential is to be a supportive community. Of course, positive criticism is not only good, it's needed to improve. But, envy & rudeness don't bring anything good at all. We all sometimes feel jealous of someone, but at that time it's way better to choose to feel inspired than to criticize.

  14. So great,Pam! And Duh, I was in too big of a hurry (again) 😉
    I need to slow down and enjoy things AND be supportive as well!
    Glad u got them. Sorry they were stinky 😉

  15. Hi Pam! You know I've been stopping by your blog recently but I found this particular entry from Collette's Links A'la Mode! This is a fantastic post as I too was wondering is my blog doing well or not? I am still rather new to the blogosphere, I started blogging in April of this year. And up until now, I kept wondering, is it the # of followers, your daily traffic numbers, the number of commentators? I think progress should be how you define it, and does this blog resonate what you set out for the reason why you start it. And you are right, we should support one another, and not let pride get in the way. Some blogs will simply do better than others, but that's just life in general right? BTW, I interviewed my mom on Friday of this week, I think you two would be good friends 😉

  16. Love the feather headband…..I am new to fashion blogging & so far it has been wonderful to meet women from around the globe! Like my ever-changing style I now follow a diverse group of blogs. P.S……..through the Citizen Rosebud blog I came accoss the over 40 bloggers……which everyone already knew about!

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