Meet Heather.  She is a stylish, dynamic, extremely active woman.  Heather believes all women should carry their own I MATTER sign…because, “if we don’t care about ourselves first, who is going to?”  Heather exudes confidence.  It is reflected in her smile, her fashion, and her posture.  Confidence is attractive…plain and simple.  Tomorrow I will introduce you to what Heather does to help women feel their confident, stylish best.

But, for now, may I ask you…what is confidence to you?  Is it a deep feeling of self-acceptance or do you connote it with a cocky, self-absorbed individual?  Is it a goal you strive for…or something you cringe over and desire to avoid?

I hope most of you have seen the 1999 release, Runaway Bride, starring Julia Roberts and Richard Gere.  Maggie Carpenter (Roberts character) is investigated by reporter Ike Graham (Gere) for the number of times she leaves fiancés at the altar.  He finally concludes Maggie avoids commitment because of her insecurities…her lack of confidence in who Maggie is.  There is a great segment where she is deciding what eggs she likes to eat (without the influence of a man) and what activities she really likes.  Her new confidence results in a business she develops through designing artistic lamps.  Once she knows and accepts Maggie, she can finally love someone else.

My closet represented the insecurities in my life.  All I had to do was walk in, and I could see hangers of garments which did not seem to connect to the same woman.  I allowed others to tell me what I should and should not wear.  I spent too much time comparing myself to other women and feeling immobile because I focused on my body negatives!

Once I began to rethink Pam and accept her and begin to understand who she is at this stage of life, things changed.  I saw that I could dress an overweight body to look slimmer and great. I could look youthful and feel younger in my clothes.  I stopped looking for negatives and began to enjoy who I was right then at that moment.  I established my own messages which I desired to communicate with my wardrobe and stuck to them…no matter how other women I admired dressed.  Some women look fabulous in long prairie skirts…I don’t…and I should not wear them to please others.  I got excited about life, but soberly accepted, life is short…so I needed to grab my confidence and live each day with exuberance. Now, ten years after the wake-up call, I walk into my closet and see me…a focused wardrobe with my signature. 

Practice confidence!  Select clothing you feel awesome in…then walk out of the house, head held high, smile on face and look everyone you meet in the eye.  Enter every room that way…eventually, it will become a part of you.  

Confidence means I know who I am…and I accept her and understand her…and enter a room with her.  Once I tossed the insecurities…or plates of eggs as Roberts’ character did…I could usher in joy, fun, and reinvention at age 50.
So, let me ask you…how do you like your eggs?  Do you know?  Do your insecurities govern what wardrobe selections you make? How is your level of confidence?   Let’s discuss.

(Read all of the I MATTER posts HERE)

Then enjoy the Thursday Blog Hop (and come back tomorrow to see what Heather is up to!)


It’s time to hop! Party and link up! The Thursday Favorite Things Blog hop is where you can link your favorite post of the week or write a post about your favorite things and share it with old and new followers. The hop is hosted and posted on 3 different blogs! Your link will appear on the blogs of Katherine’s Corner,  Over 50 Feeling 40, and Vintage Mama.  Three times the opportunity to make new bloggy friends and to share your wonderful blog and discover others to

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