Looking over the recent posts with fall outfits from my past, reminded me of the journey I have been on for the last 14 years. At age 50, I decided to reinvent myself and proceeded to go through a makeover. However, discovering my reinvented style took a lot of hard work…hits and misses…and time.
Here is a snippet of what I have learned:
- I needed to understand if clothing did not look right on me that it had nothing to do with me…only the clothes. Once I stopped bashing myself, and looked objectively at the clothing, then I could take ownership of my selections. A size 16 does not fit the same from label to label or store to store. That has nothing to do with my body…only the way the clothing has been sized.
- I learned some garments were not right for me because they did not fit within the messages I want to send with my style. Sometimes the messages were opposite of me…who I am or my work for example. Sometimes the messages were too young.
- I had to listen to my voice first and other voices later. Some have tried to tell me to wear trends I knew were not right for me, while others have told me garments I love are not right for me. Trust your voice…you know better than anyone what you are going for with your style. Write down five messages you want to send with your outfits and stick to it!
- I learned the importance of trying clothes on…taking time in the mirror with objective scrutiny…and to only purchase what I love. (Whenever, I shop in a hurry, there are ultimately returns which must be made) Wearing clothing which fits properly is so important for our confidence…no matter our age…no matter our size.
- It is not shallow nor a waste of time to journal through your style journey. Make notes of what works and what doesn’t. Study style books and make notes of what speaks to you. Write about issues in your life which have stunted your style and purpose to discover ways to move past them. A style journal can be very helpful.
Again, it takes work. Do not get discouraged if you feel as though every trip to a store is a bust. Keep pushing forward. I do have more guidelines in my booklet 8 Steps to Reinvented Style, but I learned from experience to be patient and have fun with this…life is too short not to.
It was the reinvented style which led to this blog which has opened so many new doors for me. I was suppose to be in New York City today….flown there by a national brand, but sadly I came down with viral bronchitis and could not go. While I am disappointed, I also acknowledge everything happens for a reason, and for now I need to rest and get better. There will be new opportunities tomorrow.
Keep Smiling, everyone!