Soft Surroundings outfit on over 50 Feeling 40


I did it!  This over 50 woman dared to walk into her closet last Saturday for a good cleaning, and I discovered pieces (like this linen outfit from Soft Surroundings), more peace (as many of you said I would), and celebrated with a cool popsicle…because every good Gigi keeps popsicles in her freezer this time of year!  It really does feel good to have made a significant dent in my wardrobe.

I am always amazed at what we learn about someone from their closets.  If it is full of everything and unfocused, the woman is most often struggling with who she is.  If is it full of drab, uninspired, oversized tee shirts and ill -fitting jeans, then most often the woman is depressed with her life or her body type.  Confident women are focused and understand who they are.  How I send messages with my clothing has been the way I have stayed on task and confident.  I have learned that getting dressed no matter what I am doing is a huge joy booster!  

Yet, if you were to have walked into my closet last week, you would have thought I was the woman struggling with identity.  It was a full-house packed mess.  My busyness the last four years kept me from keeping separate the seasons and from weeding out the “no-not-me-looks.”  There were three main things I kept in mind last Saturday:

  1. Most items…especially pants…needed to be tried on in front of a full- length mirror in order to properly decide what stays and what goes
  2. To be kind to myself and not expect too much this first round of refining the closet. In other words, it did not need to be especially severe right now.  I will probably revisit this next year after living my new life for a time.
  3. My style adjectives. I want to speak to the world that I am elegant, intelligent, confident, approachable and creative (creativity is a way I express my joy)




Because I was overwhelmed and almost talked myself out of it, I started with the accessories.   There were some scarves that needed to go on their merry way.  I always have two discard piles (sounds like a card game!). The first pile goes to Goodwill as donations.  The second pile goes to my friend who will sell them on EBAY and we split the profits.  At this time, it is too overwhelming for me to try to sell them myself and I like helping her out as well.  The scarves to go first were really long ones, or in colors I no longer prefer, or gimmicky. 

I asked myself if there is a chance that I would truly wear the accessory in my new stage of life, and if the chance was there, I kept it.  But, for those with no chance and which may not have been worn for some time…they went to discard.




The next step was to remove everything from the main closet that is for fall or winter.   Many of you know…I love fall and winter clothing best and this was a huge pile to remove.  Mr. B asked if we were moving up north…he has no understanding of why I own so many cold weather clothes in a warm climate.  Perhaps he is right!  But, most of the garments are items I really love.  I did pass a small amount at this time to the discard pile to sell.  The blessing of owning a home where the three children have moved on, is extra closet space.  I am using it well!  I know I will need to force myself eventually to weed out these seasons…I just was not completely ready for that now.  They are tucked away waiting for the first cool breezes…which, around here, will be a long wait.



Linen from Soft Surroundings on Over 50 Feeling 40 

Everything had to have a flattering fit in order to stay in the closet.  Many of you will be happy to know that the majority of the discards were over-sized or ill-fitting garments.  I was a little appalled at how many jeans were hanging in there, but I tried each pair on and gave it the discerning eye.  Several did not make the cut, but I did hang on to a few pair that each had their own unique qualities.   As with jeans, not all of the long toppers and jackets were sent away, but many said good bye.

I am wearing today a linen top and cotton capris from Soft Surroundings.  I rediscovered them both in the closet clean and so glad that I did…I like both pieces and they are great for summer.  The leather sandals are Born and I have owned them a long time…originally purchased at Marshalls.  OK, yes, the popsicles are different colors!  Mr. B, my photographer, made me get a red one to be a closer match with the shoes!  I did not eat either one…but he did!  Now, back to the wardrobe… I like this quote from Tish Jett, because I find it to be so true. 

“At our age, we probably know what works best on our bodies. It’s evident. It’s those clothes we wear over and over, buy over and over, the items that receive the most compliments, not the ones hanging there unworn.”  – Tish Jett, Forever Chic

I still kept many of my clothing from my professional, in-office life.  I think they will gradually go away as I determine what I need for this new life.  But, I do feel so much better to have my main closet clean and lean...No, it is not 10 items, but a lot less than it was. Tomorrow, we will talk more on all that I am learning about becoming a woman of elegance.  For now, here is a slideshow, and make sure you…..

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