Happy Tuesday, ladies! Let’s discuss what makes a mature woman “real.”
I have noticed several conversations on blogs recently which made me wonder your answers to this question.
I desire to find some understanding as a writer to mature women.
The conversations all revolved around a mature woman’s decision “to go gray or not to go gray”…that is the question.
IS THERE ONE AREA THAT MAKES A MATURE WOMAN REAL?
I began to ponder this more during the week before Christmas when I featured this stylish mature woman from an event I attended.
One of the readers said it was nice to see a real woman because she had gray hair.
So, bottom line? I believe what I am really asking is if gray hair is the only measurement of a mature “real woman.”
Before answering, consider these questions….
If a mature woman has gray hair, but still colors it to get the right shade of gray……is she real?
If she has gray hair, but uses Botox to soften wrinkles…is she real?
If she has gray hair, but wears a body slimmer to hide the middle…is she real?
If she has gray hair, but wears makeup… is she real?
If she has gray hair, but works to be pencil thin for beauty (not health) reasons…is she real?
If she wears a silver wig, is she real?
Two of the women in the top picture do not have gray hair…are they less real than the one who does?
When a reader comments, “It is nice to see a real woman with gray hair,” what exactly does that mean?
DO YOU CONSIDER ME TO BE A REAL MATURE WOMAN?
After consulting with two hair stylists about how my gray was coming in during the pandemic, I chose to wait awhile before I begin the process. I am currently 68.
I do this for me…my confidence.
Does that make me less real? Must I go gray to be considered real?
OR IS “REAL” MORE ABOUT THE INSIDE THAN THE OUTSIDE?
I will tell you my feelings right now.
A real mature woman to me is kind, humble, approachable, authentic, truthful, and giving.
No matter how her outsides look, if she lives these qualities from the inside, I believe she is real.
My friend and blog assistant, Leigh Ann, is one of the most real mature women I know and she has not gone gray. She also is in her sixties and possesses those qualities inside.
There are many paths we take to be confident with our appearance as mature women.
Those are personal choices and individual to each of us…they do not make us less authentic unless we allow an obsession to take control of our joy and lives.
I truly would like to hear your thoughts. As I said Monday…this is a great week to find out what is on your mind.
What type of “real” woman are you looking for on the blogs you read?
I hope you will answer the question and share…what do you believe makes a mature woman “real?”
Thank you so much for being here…your participation is important and is read by many….make sure you comment and then have a day where you continue to…
By Pamela Lutrell
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