Happy Tuesday, ladies! Today is part two of my style reinvention update: who am I now?
That has been the ultimate question for the last two years in a new time of life….who am I now?
I am working from home. Life is active, but more relaxed.
As I stated yesterday, my number one style goal has been CONFIDENCE.
Let’s look at that word closer: “Confidence is a state of being clear-headed either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence comes from a Latin word ‘fidere’ which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self.”
Last year, my confidence level was a bit rattled as I struggled to take my new colors and style them into looks that said “This is Me”….I needed to trust my chosen course of action
STYLE REINVENTION UPDATE: THE PERSONALITIES
Annie believed I should dress as the Bohemian/Romantic. I made a pledge to everyone that I was going to see her advice through and see where it took me.
NEITHER OF THESE WORDS RESONATED WITH ME. And the word feminine had never been an adjective I strived for.
However, I always desire to be teachable and try new things. But, on that journey to interpret these two words for me…I became a little lost. I acknowledge that my love of creativity does have a touch of bohemian to it, but many of the synonyms are not me at all. Because I love words, I tend to get lost in studying them.
I have never really been a lace, flowers, romantic woman…however there are some elements of romantic style I have added to my wardrobe and liked.
My struggles began when I started to try on clothing and ask…is that bohemian, is it romantic…and stopped asking…is it Pamela? Annie’s second question was ultimately the most important one.
STYLE REINVENTION UPDATE: BACK TO MY SYSTEM
This focus on these two words took me away from a system I created at the beginning of the blog and I know works! So, I am returning to it and setting aside the focus on bohemian/romantic.
The Foundational Five Personal Style Building Blocks has always made sense to me and worked beautifully during my 50s. In my 60s, I began to dress more for the professional world than me and that is when I started to lose sight of my Pam-style. Then the Style Refresh happened last year.
I firmly believe in this quote from Rachel Zoe…think about the “without having to speak” part…..
Our appearance immediately tells other people who we are. It is the cover to our book.
When we control those messages, we begin to develop our own unique personal style. When I did this in my 50s every day, people would say…”I saw this outfit yesterday and knew it was for you, because I clearly know who you are and what you wear.”
So, if our choice of clothing sends messages about us then our clothing choices should be purposeful, no matter where we are headed that day. It is really all about the messages our clothing sends to others. It occurred to me that the way for me to create my very own personal Pamela- style was to control (over and over again) the messages I desired my clothing to say to others about me.
So, I created my own formula. I picked out five descriptive words which I desired to say with my clothing selections each time I left the house. Five seemed like the perfect combination. If I included more on my list, then I would not be focused with my messages or consistent with my style. I started taking my words with me every time I went in a dressing room or got dressed at home. If the outfit or the garment did not say these adjectives, then I did not wear them. This helped me to leave more clothing behind and not have a closet full of mistakes.
I called the five words MY FOUNDATIONAL FIVE and began to stay true to them in 2010. It worked for a very long time.
It was perfectly understandable to tweak my adjectives in different stages of life. But when I began to just focus on bohemian/romantic, I feel like I lost control and have often been confused. Early on in the pandemic, I attempted to create an elegant woman. I studied and studied my own interpretation of the word elegance. However, traditional interpretations of the word were just not me and I never fully embraced it. I guess I am too much of a bull in a china shop to ever fully be considered…elegant. I also attempted to look at myself as “earthy.” It just never fit me.
Iris Apfel has said, “ It’s hard work getting to know yourself. The biggest fashion faux pas is to look in the mirror and see someone else. You need to know your faults and your assets, you must learn who you are and dress to suit your personality.”
NEWS FLASH! I am returning to my Foundational Five. I have worked and tweaked the adjectives for days, in order to decide which ones I want to communicate to the world about me now…as a communication professional…as a wife, mother, and grandmother…as a confident woman in her 60s.
I am setting aside the bohemian/romantic focus but believe I have learned much from the journey. Those who love the style personalities have a system that works for them. I also have a system that works for me.
STYLE REINVENTION UPDATE: WHO AM I?
From now on, when I dress or shop, I will be asking about each outfit, does this say that Pamela is:
Joyful – does this look put a confident smile on my face?
Approachable – does this look say to anyone, you can talk to me…I am not above you, I am here for you?
Creative (Artistic) – does this look reflect my artistic, love of style either in the outfits or the accessories and that I love life?
Polished – does this look communicate put together, purposeful, well thought out?
Current – does this look reflect I am young at heart, active, engaged in life?
The word polished is in there to reign me in from being too bohemian with my creative side. I like looking put together…purposeful. I have done this before and I know that if I strive to communicate these adjectives about every outfit in my closet going forward that I will be true to me.
I believe in the first picture I am wearing a look that covers all five adjectives. In the picture which says NOT ME…I was merely looking for something Bohemian and it was too much and never felt right. So the garment sits in my closet.
There are ways I can speak to both systems…like this….
We are all different …unique, beautiful creations with unique lifestyles and we will have our own unique Foundational Five. We all will want to speak different messages from our different places in life.
Your five might include words like simple, tailored, romantic, trendy, classic, refined, preppy, earthy, quirky, young, strong, dignified, elegant, relaxed…there are a plethora of words to compose the communications we are seeking with our own individual foundational five. I would like to submit to you that if you shop with five adjectives in mind, then you will begin to define your own style. You will also take less clothing to thrift stores and return less to the stores and have fewer moments before a three -way mirror saying WHAT WAS I THINKING?
When I combine my best colors with this system, I know I will get to where I want to be with my personal style at this stage of my life.
My system has more room for me to be me and not attempt to be someone else’s version of me.
Many women turn to blogs with the goal of “I want to look like her,” “How can I look like her?”
Ladies, I want you to look like you! This Foundational Five system will help you get there if you can target what you want to say with your clothing.
I hope you will join me and share with others what five adjectives you would like to communicate right now where you are. Then, let’s have discussions of how I can help you get there.
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By Pamela Lutrell
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