Are you an ordinary woman or an Extraordinary Woman?

Pamela Lutrell wearing quality over quantity

I have been called the blogger for the every day woman over 50.  I have to smile because I really think all women are every day women doing what needs to be done from one day to the next.  But this label has been given to me because I am not wealthy…I am not skinny….I am not young…and I am more suburban than urban.  I work hard at two jobs and I am constantly going, going, going…. (not complaining one bit, move over Ever Ready Bunny).

Yet, I happen to believe that the every day women are extraordinary women.  We are working hard…serving where we can…caring for large, growing families…enjoying every drop of this life we have been gifted.  If saying that I am the every day woman blogger, means that I can identify with your life, then bring on the label. I want to be able to identify with you, the reader and bring encouragement to enjoy each day, one day at a time.  It’s called positive aging.

Over 50 Feeling 40 in Ming Wang White Blouse

From the donation baskets of Goodwill SA to the stylists of Neiman Marcus, I bring to you fashion options of all price points.  But, I try to always bring to you quality…even from the selected affordable brands I represent.  When I am at Goodwill, I am seeking out treasures of top brands someone decided to pass along.  There is a lot to be said for the value of quality over quantity.  So often I talk about cost per wear.  If I am going to wear an item that I paid a higher price for more often because it looks and fits better, then my cost per wear will be lower than the cheaper item that may sit in my closet because something is just not quite right.

A great example of this would be white blouses.

Pamela Lutrell blogs for every day women

I actually just donated away about eight white blouses that have sat in my closet and perhaps were worn once.  I searched and searched for a white blouse with a perfect fit and design to go with my jackets and blazers.  Many were boxy or bulged in all the wrong places.  Then I met this blouse at Dillards by Ming Wang.  It is much more expensive than those others I tossed, but I love the fit and chic styling of this top.  I have already worn it often.  I wish I had found this prince earlier and not wasted money on the frogs.  But, there are times (especially on foundation pieces) that it is worth it for the every day woman to spend a little more on quality.

Pamela Lutrell in Aerosole Snakeskin Mules from Macys

My outfit today is pretty simple, but an extraordinary woman should wear extraordinary shoes!  These are another recent sale purchase…Aerosole Mules from Macys.  I love these and will be wearing them often as well.  Since I get a pedicure every two weeks, my heels will stay smooth and lovely to wear a mule shoe often.

Please don’t allow anyone to call you every day, ordinary women.  You are extraordinary.  Made as unique as each snowflake you have seen this winter.  There is not another you…any where.  I am proud to say that there is not another blogger like me.  I will never be a model…but that is not why I am here.  Be encouraged…take heart…and




Terry is a reader of this blog and she wishes to tell the world that her style is updated classic, casual, sophistication, engaged, intelligent, and approachable.  That’s six…but it still works and I hope to encourage Terry and readers like her with today’s slideshow.  When a woman wants to project that she is engaged, I believe Terry wants to be seen as current and someone involved in life. So, I really tried to take in each adjective when making selections

It just so happens that this Ming Wang White top and the shoes fit into these adjectives!  Those two pieces are above….just in case you scrolled by them!





I had a fun slideshow posted on Wednesday with items I would consider great pieces if you are going to speak in front of a audience.  Somehow, that slideshow and my comments disappeared from the post.  So I thought I would put it here again in case anyone was looking for these items.  Got to love technology, right?


Thanks so much for being here…do you feel ordinary or extraordinary!!  Hope it is the latter!  See you tomorrow for Would You Wear It?


“Know that you are the perfect age. Each year is special and precious, for you shall only live it once. Be comfortable with growing older.”  ~Louise Hay




By Pamela Lutrell






  1. Well Pam, you are definitely inspiring a lot of women. Labels often cause us to put ourselves in specific catagories, but in truth we as women are many-faceted. I don’t think of myself as ordinary, though I am, or extraordinary, though I’m that too. We can spend years trying to throw off a label, right? I like your outfit today. It contains some of my favorite colors to wear, as I like olive very much, and black and white are always at the top of the list. I’m currently in the hunt for a white shirt, but this one is a specific style. They had it at Soft Surroundings and now I can’t find it on their site any longer, but hoping it comes back after their big sale! White shirts are real workhorses, and though I have quite a few, this particular “fall away from the body” style is one I’m lacking. Has to have short sleeves, so it’s quite a search! Have a great weekend Pam!

  2. This is a wonderful post! You are anything but ordinary, and I wish I had your energy! You are an inspiration to all of us, and I look forward to your blog. It’s the first one I read every day. I agree we are all extraordinary woman and should embrace what is unique about us. Love the crisp white shirt with the olive jacket, and black pants. The shoes are fabulous!

  3. Dear Pam. . . Love your post today. 💖 It reminds me of when I met a fellow soccer mom years ago at a pool party for the kids. People were getting better acquainted and I asked what she did. She responded, “oh, I’m just a mom, nothing special.” My heart broke just a little bit for her, and for countless other women who might also sometimes feel that way. I responded that I thought that was the most special of all. She appreciated it I think, and we became friends. With my youngest just about to leave the nest this spring, and having retired from teaching this past summer, I’ve been feeling a little “just” myself while I reconfigure all the parts again into my otherwise extraordinary/ordinary self. It’s part of the journey we all take. With aging parents, a husband with health issues, etc., etc., each chapter presents new challenges and opportunities for growth. Anyway, your post made me think of a song I’ve been listening to lately in my long car rides into town. It’s by Kat Edmonson, off her Old Fashioned Gal album, entitled “Sparkle and Shine.” When you have a couple minutes, take a listen on youtube or however you check out songs. The chorus makes me think of you (not the intro, though that speaks to the feeling ordinary side of life). Also, take note of how her voice changes when that chorus begins, like she’s just smiling behind that microphone. It makes me happy listening to her, like she’s singing to anyone who’s ever felt a little doubtful or uncertain. You Sparkle and Shine, Pam.
    Happy Friday!

  4. Fashion can be fun for everyone. You have such great ideas. I look forward to your post each day. I’m wondering how I make purchases through your blog after I have gone to the store to try something on.

  5. Hi Pam,
    I loved the slideshow! You really captured my style, and also featured items from some of my favorite retailers (Chico’s, J. Jill, Talbots, Macy’s). I think I’ll be purchasing some of those items!

    The five style adjectives is such a great concept, and doing these slideshows is really a wonderful service for your readers. I read many fashion blogs, but yours is one of my favorites.

    Thanks again, and have a great weekend!

  6. As always, I enjoyed your blog today. You are one of my favorites. Your outfit was lovely and something I will be buying. You always have great ideas! Thanks for all the time you put into this blog.

  7. My goodness, what an inspiring post today! This is why I visit you everyday! Love the message about positive aging, which I am certainly trying to do. I enjoy your attitude to life as well as your fashion sense. Thank you!

  8. What a wonderful post! There is beauty in the ordinary. It is up to each of us to find it That is what makes our ordinary extraordinary! Your outfit is lovely. I really like the jacket & your extraordinary shoes.

  9. Another great message, Pam! I think a lot of us find it difficult to think of ourselves as extraordinary because it feels self-centred, but we really are! I’m glad you encourage women to see themselves that way. I also love the quote from Louise Hay.

  10. White shirts are workhorses…you are so right. If you can find a picture of that shirt Karen…then email it to me and I will see what I can find out from Soft Surroundings.

  11. Thank you, Dawn…part of my energy is fueled by comments like these! I so appreciate the encouragement.

  12. CONNIE, this song and video was amazing and I cannot tell you how much I needed it today. I am going to share it on the blog and I hope soon to explain to you why it was so meaningful to me on this day! Thank you so much for sharing!

  13. Aww Mary…thank you…I love that you want to do that for me. If you find a garment that you try on and you are willing to purchase it online, then please email me at over50feeling nd I will see if I can get it into a slideshow. Thank you…that means so much

  14. I am so glad you liked it, Terry and that it inspired you. Working with reader style adjectives is so much fun! Thanks for participating and you have a great weekend too.

  15. Your post today was wonderful. Thank you for your encouragement and affirmations. Many times I feel invisible and certainly very ordinary. Sad. I think you must have written this post for me! Thank you!

  16. You are not ordinary at all, Joanne. You are unique and special in many ways. Start focusing on what makes you uniquely Joanne!

  17. Your post is wonderful! I really enjoy reading it! I think that every day woman is truly a hero when they have to do lots of jobs and have so many things to care about!

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