Pamela Lutrell I Matter Post

I entered 2020 believing it would be a significant year in my life, and I still believe it.  I am convinced more than ever that our over 50 life needs to be a positive one of Get Up, Get Out and Get Going! I have heard from several of you since the new year who are in transition.  Some of you are embracing the change and some of you feel shut down.  So, I am here today to encourage you to get going. Do not give self-pity or discouragement one more moment to set traps in your life and keep you mired in a pit of bad behaviors…sitting idle, over eating, over spending, or succumbing to “victim-thinking.”



  1. Make a plan

Make a plan for this time of your life.  Set specific goals and write them down. Really ponder deeply …What would I like to accomplish on this side of 50?  How can I make a difference?  Is it giving my time to a non-profit?  Is it spending more time with children or grandchildren?  Is it being a mentor?  Decide your goals and then every day do something to move toward those goals.  Work your plan.  I know a very inspiring woman in her 60s who has a plan for her grandchildren and each time she is with them, she has a goal in mind of something to teach them…and have fun doing it.  How can you go out and bear fruit right now?

Pamela Lutrell discusses bearing fruit


  1. Accept that life is short

That is not depressing…just a fact…and allow it to motivate you to get out of your chair and get going.   Yes, rest is important, however, if rest becomes a way to escape life then it is a destroyer of your life.  Even if you are no longer in the workplace, you can work to make a difference and to enjoy your life.  None of us know how much time we will have on this earth, so get out and make a difference today.  This world needs you and what you have to offer.  If you have felt a tug at your heart, to join a particular group as a volunteer, then waste no time and call today.  There are so many needs and so few hands to meet them.

Over 50 Feeling 40 on Sometimes Later Becomes Never

  1. Be thankful

Do not waste time lamenting your current situation. Write down areas you can be grateful for today! Spend time every day with thankfulness and, yes, become a positive person who looks to the bright side of life.  My mother wasted so much of her life complaining and living in her past disappointments.  She could never get beyond them to experience pure joy.

  1. Clear out your junk

We all have messes in our life which we allow to rob us of our life.  Perhaps your mess is that you do not care for your health or you have debt which needs to be settled or you have a dispute going on with a family member.  These are the types of messes which will consume our thinking.  As part of your plan, plan to clean up your messes so that they are not holding you back.  Do not give them permission to keep you in that self-pity mire.  What are you going to do about the mess?  Be active to clean it up now.

  1. Stay Current

You need to stay current on what is happening in the world around you.  Informed, current thinking is youthful thinking.  By understanding what is going on around you, then you can begin to discern where you can truly make a difference and be used during your life. The younger generation needs us, but in order to converse with them and obtain their respect, we need to understand what they face, what they are dealing with, and what is going on around them. A mature woman can stay informed and not allow the happenings in today’s world to cause her to shut down.  Be a confident, mature woman and allow that information to motivate you to “stay in the game of life” and bring wisdom where it is needed most.


Pamela Lutrell in a horizontal stripe

This was casual, fun around the house day.  I am so, so careful with horizontal stripes, but I believe this top works as the fit and design are flattering.  If it was bigger and loose on me, it would make me look larger than I am. I still love my ECCO sneaker boots which have been great for winter…can’t wait to see what ECCO has for spring. 

I hope this post has encouraged some of you who needed a little prodding to get up, get out and get going.  I am looking forward to the day when I am more in control of my time and can make wise decisions as to how it will be spent.  This is the year for us all to go make a difference.   You got this…because YOU MATTER!

Any thoughts?  Does anyone who is sitting idle need more direction?  If so…let’s talk about it. Would anyone like to discuss the life-transition-challenges you are facing at this time?  Perhaps you would like to encourage others and have points to add to this list.  Please share. Tomorrow, I will discuss how your appearance and health play a major role in working your plan.  I hope you will join us.


 “As you grow older, you’ll find that the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.”   -Zachary Scott


By Pamela Lutrell






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