Soft Surroundings Metro Leggings on Over 50 Feeling 40


Happy Friday, everyone!  This is the day where I discuss my journey to be a woman of elegance, what I am learning, and how I apply it to my life over 50.  Today we are talking about how to be fabulous…yes, fabulous.  Sadly, the word fabulous is like elegance…it is most often associated with those of great wealth, fame,  or royalty and the majority of everyday women believe they will not ever know it.   But,  I believe we are ALL fabulous and need to learn how to own it.

First a note about today’s outfit, I feel fabulous when I wear clothing that fits and says what I want to tell the world about me.  It is so great to see the options in my closet again that speak those things. Before last Saturday’s purge, it was difficult to find and see everything.  This is an older linen jacket from Chico’s paired with a white V neck Traveler’s tank, and my Metro Leggings From Soft Surroundings.   The necklace is also vintage Chico’s.  So far, I have not been ready to part with many items in my jewelry…it is like saying good-bye to the fun crowd in the group!  I still want to party with them.




The book that had the biggest impact on me at the very beginning of my reinvention at age 50 was The Essentials of Fabulous by Ellen Lubin-Sherman.  It is so inspiring and shows us how we are easily in the “fabulous” category…understanding it and then owning it are the keys.


She explains that there is no fast lane to fabulous, but it is a journey and I think goes hand in hand with truly elegant women.  Ellen writes that there are 11 key traits of a fabulous woman:

  1. They are passionate about life.
  2. They are delightfully authentic.
  3. They are revered for their amazing attitude. (She writes, Attitude is Everything)
  4. They are warm and completely accessible.
  5. They have flair.
  6. They have impeccable manners
  7. They are competent.
  8. They just “get it.” (a level of empathy and compassion born out of deep understanding of the human spirit.)
  9. They have big bandwidth. (Comfortable with everyone…all types of people)
  10. They are vivid virtually. (How you communicate from emails to hand written notes)
  11. They have a board. (People you listen to and are open to their advice)



Just doing this short review makes me want to re-read the book…which I have completely marked up over the years. It is inspiring and teaches us things we can all do and aspire to do.

Fabulous Women are Elegant Women.





Ellen writes, “The only antidote to getting crepey is attitude – an amazing and life affirming attitude toward yourself and the people around you.  This is what makes people ageless.  And get this: When you’re fabulous you will never have to worry about wrinkles again.  They’ll be irrelevant.”


I guess this is why the fabulous designer Diane Von Furstenberg does not worry about wrinkles.   Here is an article explaining DVF Loves Her Wrinkles.

I don’t know if I am at that stage quite yet, but here is a little homework for all of us.  Let’s begin with strengthening the love we have for ourselves.  Ellen recommends writing a love letter to yourself.  At least write down all of the wonderful qualities that make you, you.  Write as many as you can….no negatives.  Post them somewhere you will see them often or save them to a special file in your computer called THE FABULOUS ME.

This is another excellent step for our beginning- to- be -elegant -journey.  Many of us here are starting new phases of life…let’s make sure we do it with incredible attitudes! 






Today is my beautiful daughter’s birthday.  She is truly a woman of strength and dignity.  She is incredibly intelligent, and the perfect mom for an active group of three young men all under age 7.  She is so talented and fun.  I wish her the best birthday ever!! I miss her and her crew.

OK, is anyone out there struggling with believing that you are or can be fabulous…or elegant?  Please share and let me know how our journey together is going….





Cultivating Elegance on Over 50 Feeling 40



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