Soft Surroundings wardrobe on over 50 Feeling 40


Happy Monday, everyone!  Welcome to a new Monday feature here on the blog: Reality Check Monday…which will focus on ideas for living successfully over 50 during our rapidly changing times.

Here is the Reality Check for the majority of us… who are women over 50 in 2020….

  1. We are spending more time at home…some by choice, some for protection, some from layoffs (like me), furloughs, or from companies which declared many in early retirement.
  2. Many of us find that we are in more of a financial pinch than before the pandemic. Plus, we are not sure what the future holds for our economy.



On Mondays, we will gather here to discuss ideas for how to remain hopeful and save some money during this time.  This is where you will find my weekly most affordable fashion tips, home ideas, and inspiration for going through this time together with a smile.

The idea for Realty Check Monday began last week………



Last week while caring for my grandchildren, I began to experience fearful moments like I have not had in a long, long time.  I began to fear for me & Mr. B in the future, and I began to fear for my children and grandchildren and what the world will hold for them.  I normally do not obsess to this extent.  So, instead of giving in to it, I began to evaluate why I might be experiencing this level of fear.

What I realized is I was completely off my self-care game for a week as I focused on the children and it deeply affected my state-of-mind.

  1. I suffered serious lack of sleep.
  2. I was not eating properly.
  3. I was not having a morning quiet time to begin my day.
  4. I was not exercising, except for chasing children.


Most likely the reason many moms of multiple preschoolers are at their wits end much of the time and can use some time off occasionally.

I was reminded of the importance to do all of these things in order to get through this challenging time with hope and a smile.  I am feeling much better and ready to get back to my routine. 

If you also are suffering extreme levels of fear, you might do a self-care check and see where the root cause may lie. I know for me, exhaustion really takes its toll on my thinking.  Another suggestion is to turn off the news for at least a week…too much can create anxiety.




Soft Surroundings kimono and necklace on Over 50 Feeling 40 

For many of us at this time, we must find joy and contentment in our own closets.  I re-discovered this Soft Surroundings kimono and necklace when I recently did the closet purge. It is perfect for my work-from-home life right now.  I styled It with my Soft Surroundings Metro Leggings…which may have the lowest cost-per-wear of any garment in my wardrobe because I wear them so often. The are so comfortable, flattering, and years later, look great after many washings.

I topped the look with my BZEES Chill Slip On Flat sandals…remember these are washable and super comfy.  If you have not done a closet dive in awhile, you never know what you might find.



DIY Blueberry Syrup on over 50 Feeling 40

Time and budgeting are finding me back in the DIY area and this time it is more fun than before…when I was parenting children and working at the same time.  Do you know how super easy it is to make your own blueberry syrup?

Pour a pint of washed, fresh blueberries into a saucepan and cook on medium, stirring regularly until it cooks down into a syrup texture.  Add your favorite sweetener…sugar, Stevia, Blue Agave.  I keep it in a jar in the refrigerator for yogurt, toast,  Mr. B’s waffles…whatever you like. It is fresh, easy and delicious.

Homemade Blueberry Syrup on over 50 Feeling 40



On Mondays, I will feature in the slideshow the retailers known most for affordable fashions or perhaps those hosting amazing sales during the time of the post.  My goal will be to help those of you who want to look and feel your best but live on a strict budget.  Any time you are looking for something specific, let me know and I will hunt it down for you at the best price! 

Today’s slideshow features H & M, Nordstrom Rack, Kohls, and WALMART.  Please remember if you go to any of these websites through my slideshow and purchase something different, I will still get credit for your purchase.  I appreciate all support.  I hope you enjoy spending Monday’s with me with the intention to keep our joy meters running high.



Pamela Lutrell for Goli GummiesThere are several ways that I generate income through this blog in order to cover business expenses and give myself much needed income.  Purchases through the slideshow links is one way, ads on the page is one way and a new way is through ordering or re-ordering the GOLI Apple Cider Vinegar gummies through me with my GOLI LINK HERE.  Again, if you are not familiar with the benefits of apple cider vinegar, you should speak with your personal physician.  My husband and I are sold on the benefits and I am proud to represent this product.  I am going to leave this at the bottom of my posts so that when you, friends or family would like to order you can use my link.  Thanks for the support.  This is a great product; as well as, the ones below!



Mr. B and I love our meals from Sun Basket!

Sun Basket on Over 50 Feeling 40


Sun Basket is a delicious, easy, fun home delivery meal plan


My Complexion Loves Chamonix…My esthetician says my complexion is super tight!

Chamonix on Over 50 Feeling 40

All natural, plant-cell technology skincare



By Pamela Lutrell

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