Happy Sunday, friends! Today let’s sit down and talk about ways to break out of a style rut in retirement
A few of you have emailed me to specifically discuss how you want to look in retirement…more than one said, “I am in a style rut and retired.”
Then last Thursday evening, I received another email asking me to explain why I dress with 5 Style Adjectives…why that specific number?
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Let’s get started and get you out of that style rut in retirement.
HOW TO BREAK OUT OF A STYLE RUT IN RETIREMENT
Though I am not fully retired, I no longer dress for the professional office life.
Today’s outfit is one that is UNIQUELY ME…it speaks to my five style adjectives.
I believe I am telling anyone who sees me that I am creative, polished, approachable, joyful, and current with the clothing I wear.
I did not include comfortable or relaxed because those two adjectives can trip me, pesonally, up and lead to a type of sloppy style I do not want to project.
So why 5 adjectives…not three or four?
I have always believed that five adjectives help us to create our best, confident, unique selves every day.
They support each other with what we want to say that is unique to us, and also serve as a check and balance.
With a smaller number of adjectives, I might look like generic styles…classic, bohemian, romantic, etc.
So, I created my own formula to help me build a style that is unique to me.
I picked out five descriptive words which I desired to say with my clothing selections each time I left the house. Five seemed like the perfect combination.
If I included more on my list, then I would not be focused on messages that are unique to me and building a personal style. It would get out of control…a mess with shopping, and a mess in my closet.
After selecting my new five style adjectives for this new phase of my life, I began to take them shopping with me.
If the outfit or the garment does not say these adjectives, then I do not buy them or have them in my closet.
This helps me to leave more clothing behind and not have a closet full of mistakes.
I call the five words MY FOUNDATIONAL FIVE: PERSONAL STYLE BUILDING BLOCKS and I followed this for 11 years.
Recently, I tried a different direction and quickly returned to my five….because these five adjectives are me…Pam-style.
My five adjectives are:
Joyful – does this look put a confident smile on my face, so I leave the house with joy
Approachable – does this look say to anyone, you can talk to me…I am not above you, I am here for you? I am friendly.
Creative (Artistic) – does this look reflect my artistic, love of style either in the outfits or the accessories and show that I love life?
Polished – does this look communicate put together, purposeful, well thought out?
Current – does this look reflect I am young at heart, active, engaged in life?
Now, some of you have become tripped up trying to come up with five…do not worry about the number that much….only ask yourself…
IF SOMEONE APPROACHED ME, WITHOUT ME SPEAKING A WORD, WHAT DOES MY CLOTHING CHOICE SAY ABOUT ME?
Maybe there are only four adjectives you want to speak with your style every day…that is fine…just be careful not to limit yourself too much…smaller numbers can lead to generic style…not unique.
The adjective “polished” keeps my “creative” adjective in check…so that I do not purchase pieces that are too bohemian for me.
The word “current” allows me some fun with fashion and says I am engaged…which I enjoy…as long as it also speaks the other four adjectives.
A woman once told me that she wanted to have the same style as Diane Keaton.
OK…describe Diane Keaton with five adjectives…what does her overall style tell the world about Diane.
Then ask yourself….how am I different from Diane Keaton? Do I want to stick to her adjectives or what can I add that takes her style and makes it unique to me.
WARNING: If there are famous ladies you want to emulate, then make sure you know the difference between their real personal style or a character they portrayed.
I advocate that the best way to begin is to write down exactly what you want to tell the world, friends, and family about you in retirement with what you wear.
What style adjectives give you confidence when you go out every day including the more casual looks for running errands?
And yes…write down your positives and think about them as you do this…EVERYONE has a long list of postives.
We are all beautiful, ladies.
Make sure your list of adjectives fits the life you currently lead.
Style is still important in retirement because it gives us confidence and joy.
We are more likely to volunteer…to speak to others around us…to show up for gatherings…if we feel confident about how we look.
We should never look at how we dress in retirement as retiring our style! That would keep us from really enjoying all that is available to us in a new phase of life.
After you write down your initial list, then look for ways to combine the list into fewer words.
Once you select your FOUNDATIONAL FIVE then use them for shopping, for cleaning out your closet, and for every outfit…except maybe what to wear in the garden!
Ask yourself as you try on every piece of a total look…does this outfit speak these five words about me…if not…then kiss it goodbye.
It is so important to practice consistency and decide to live by your adjectives…or you will waist money.
That is when we end up with a closet full of clothing we do not wear. Make sure your clothing speaks your five adjectives.
Get excited…retirement is a time to refresh and sharpen a new you!
I do love the fact that so many of my friends get my style. They will tell me when they see something they know I will love….because my personal style is distinct.
Pam-style is unique to me and no one else. That is how it should be….you should be uniquely you.
For more in-depth information, watch the two videos I have at the top of the page.
And please let me know if I can help….you only have to think…WHAT DO I WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW ABOUT ME WITH WHAT I WEAR?
Tomorrow I am going to show you another outfit featuring a July style purchase that speaks my five adjectives.
Maybe this will help you do this for yourself some day….
This jacket was one of my birthday gift purchases from July and speaks my adjectives!
First of all, I have to tell you that these are INC. skinny jeans from Macy’s that I have owned for years…I just recently lost enough weight to get back in them!! Woo Hoo…score!
I love these jeans and just might want to get a new pair this fall.
The Quilted Button Front Universal Thread Jacket at Target is sold out in Misses, but I have linked to the women’s sizes.
It is a reversible jacket, and the blue is more the kingfisher blue in my color palette, than the light blue it appears on line.
Because of that shade of blue, it looks great with my burnt orange Universal Thread V-Neck tee…I really like these tee shirts and have them in colors meant for a vibrant autumn.
Of course, many of you will be familiar with my Worlds Find necklace.
I really believe with a wardrobe built on my five adjectives, that I could style a different look every day if I wanted to….no rut here!
I know this is long, but I so hope it helps those of you who feel stuck in a style rut in retirement.
So, please ask any questions…make comments…or just let me know how I can help. This should be fun…not stressful. Our wardrobes are a support system to help us have a life of pure enjoyment.
Let’s build that confidence together and always……………………………………..
By Pamela Lutrell
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