Mother-of-the-Groom Journey: Visiting the Venue


Happy Monday, friends!  Let’s return to the Mother-of-the-Groom Journey: Visiting the Venue.

This Mother-of-the-Groom is enjoying the process so much.

Each time I am with the parents of the bride, I get more and more excited for us to be in the same family.

They are a wonderful couple and have raised an amazing, intelligent, creative, strong woman.  My son is a lucky man.


I was thrilled that they wanted us to visit the venue and see it through the eyes of the bride and groom!

It will be an outdoor wedding, if all goes as planned, and it will be so lovely and fun.

The date for visiting the venue was put on the calendar a couple of weeks ago and it was St. Patrick’s Day.

The mother-of-the-bride is in knee replacement surgery today, so our evening together had to be Friday.

I did not want my fall to set us back or cancel the get together…so as I said yesterday, I participated through the pain…and it was worth it.

Mother-of-the-Groom Journey: What I Wore


I knew for this gathering that I wanted the mother-of-the-groom to look casual chic.

So when I found another lovely washable Italian silk outfit with palazzo pants at our Elizabeth’s Boutique in a lovely merlot (burgundy) color, I wanted it in my wardrobe.

Note: I encourage any San Antonio mother-of-the-bride or mother-of -the-groom to go to this boutique…you will love it.

Even though my outfit choice wasn’t green on an evening where most everyone was in green, I felt very comfortable and confident in it….as the mother-of-the-groom.

My FitFlop Lulu Ombre Glitter Wedge Sandal pulled the pants up off the ground so I did not worry about tripping on them and felt confident and solid walking in them with my injury.


I have been watching this lovely Southern Living Pearl Torsade Pendant Statement Necklace for a long, long time at Dillard’s.

My new role as Mother-of-the-Groom gave me the excuse I was looking for to add it to my accessories and I love it.

I paired it that night with the Southern Living Open Hinge Bracelet…which I loved wearing and It did not bother me at all.

The gold crossbody bag with sequins is a Patricia Nash bag I recently found on a clearance rack at Dillard’s for way less than on the Patricia Nash site.

I also was using a coupon off provided through my Dillard’s account that day.

However, you can find it on their site ….the Portafina Frame Crossbody Bag.

Below, I have more about the fashions I saw at dinner and what made dinner so much fun that evening.

Mother-of-the-Groom Journey: Testing Make-Up


As the mother-of-the-groom in for a long weekend of activities during a warm time of year, I began to consider my makeup.

I wanted it to stick with me…deliver a youthful glow..and trust that it would keep me looking nice until the end.

Full disclosure…I am not working for Jones Road in any capacity.

But, I desired to test the brand because I have worn Bobbi Brown for about 10 years and liked the makeup.

When she sold her company and announced Jones Road as a perfect option for mature women with a clean, no-makeup look…naturally, I was intrigued.

My biggest complaint with makeup as I inch closer to the big 7-0, is that it doesn’t look natural, and settles into every new wrinkle to enhance the appearance of aging.


I decided to order three products and test them on the evening mother-of-the-groom activity.

Bobbi Brown previously had a cream eyeshadow color that I loved called Suede…it is more difficult to find now…sometimes it is on Amazon.

This eyeshadow color is similar….THE BEST EYESHADOW in the color ASH…which pops my hazel eyes like crazy!

I also desired to try the MIRACLE BALM.

The site will assist in selecting a shade and mine is called Miami Beach!  It looks more coral on the website than in the container…but was perfect for my shading.

Finally, of course I wanted to try the WHAT THE FOUNDATION.  It is amazing…you know it’s there, but you don’t really see it other than to have a lovely glow and smoothness to the face.

My shade is Porcelain.

The great news for me was that I looked the same at the beginning and end of the evening…it endured!

Once again in my life, the woman Bobbi Brown has impressed me with her products and I do recommend for any mother-of-the-groom…or bride!

Mother-of-the-Groom Journey:  The Evening


It was reassuring to see how lovely the venue is inside and outside…so if it does rain, there are beautiful options.


The bride’s mother also showed me where the wedding party will get dresses and be provided with hair and makeup specialists.

I have elected to do my own makeup.  So many times when I have younger women do it, they put on too much and it ages me.

But, I am going to allow a stylist to smooth out my hair.

But, the best part of the evening was dinner……..


There was a band in the main dining room all evening and, boy, this lovely lady could sing.

She even sang a love song for the bride and groom.

Mostly her repertoire included oldies and I knew them all.  She noticed I was singing along and actually stuck the microphone in my face at one point.

Scary…but I sang along with her and it was fun.

The music was so exceptional, people began to dance….and the woman who fell on her behind and the woman scheduled for knee replacement were also on the dance floor!

That was me working through the pain with a smile on my face.  Music uplifts me every time.  

I loved that our families did this and look forward to us dancing together in May at the big event.

I also watched women of a certain age dancing and enjoying an evening of fun.

As I long time fashion blogger, I now can recognize where I believe women shop…so here is how I identify the styles I saw our ages wearing that night.

There was an Eileen Fisher Woman; a J Crew Woman; an Anthropologie Woman; a Ming Wang woman; and lots of green and, also, black.

The Anthropologie woman was celebrating a her 56th birthday…she was petite, skinny, lively, shiny gray hair, and wore a top I have seen on the site in green lace.

She was having a great evening with her friends.

Casual chic was the attire of the evening for all of us…while we looked “special occasion” we were not over the top.


One more mother-of-the-groom event under my belt and it has been so much fun already!  Thank you to the host and hostess for the evening…great time.

And thank you for being here……..


Pamela Lutrell

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  1. Pam you look radiant in your outfit! I love your mother of the groom venue look! The necklace is very eye-catching and feminine. The makeup looks very interesting. I too loved the original Bobbi Brown makeup. What a lovely evening singing and dancing. I’m so glad to hear that you and the mother of the bride were able to have such an enjoyable evening in spite of current health challenges. Here’s to a quick and full recovery for you ladies!

  2. This was the best medicine for your painful week! Beauty all around you, song, and dance. What fun as the anticipation builds for the big day. I had to smile when you were able to pick out where the other women shopped. So cute. You looked happy and fab in your burgundy outfit and smooth hair. Love the necklace!

  3. I ordered some miracle balm. It’d been sitting in my bathroom unused because it was hard to apply. It not creamy in the jar, it has a waxy hard consistency. Maybe it will soften up when it gets warmer and my bathroom isn’t hovering at 60 degrees all day. I’d had some success using a makeup sponge, but it wasn’t something I found myself using regularly. A couple of weeks ago a video scrolled across my screen of someone applying it and she was using a brush.
    I tried with a brush (I used a short “buffing” brush) and that worked much better.

  4. I used a sponge and my hand.,,found it very easy to work with and it looks great on. I used it as a blush and a little on my lips. Mine wasn’t hard at all, but I do not live in a cold climate.

  5. The best thing about your outfit? How you obviously feel great in it. Confidence is a key element of style.

    And once again your accessory game is A+.

  6. What a joyful evening! You look lovely in merlot. The venue is gorgeous, and you are beautiful. It’s so heartwarming to see you and the new family having a special time. Lots of memory-making.

  7. What a wonderful evening, Pam. It’s so great that you’re getting along with your son’s future in-laws. The dinner out sounds like so much fun! And, you look lovely in your merlot outfit!

  8. You absolutely nailed the occasion’s look, Pam! Lovely, lovely. How I wish we had an Elizabeth’s boutique equivalent in Omaha.

  9. That boutique has been such a blessing as I planned these special events. I am so glad the owner contacted me to come for a visit…was a mother-of-the-groom game changer. Thanks Tess

  10. Wow, it sounds like a great night for all of you, and you look stunning in the burgundy. So funny that you could look around and determine retailers! Thank you for the field of flowers photo — happy Spring!

  11. This is for RoseAG:
    The Jones Road miracle balm does have a hard, waxy texture when you first open the jar. Bobbi Brown tells us that we have to “break the seal”. She means to firmly press a finger into the product to get to the softer product that is underneath. There are many, many YouTube videos that show the process. I own miracle balm in the shades Golden Hour and Miami Beach. What I see online is many people just breaking the seal in the center of the jar and digging out a bit of balm from there everytime they use the product. I am a bit OCD when it comes to the look of my makeup products. I wanted my balms to continue looking “pretty”, so I decided to break the seal over the entire surfaces of the jars. I then used a finger to swirl over the jars to smooth out the balms. Now my balms are accessible, but still look pretty. Bobbi Brown suggests warming the balm a bit on your fingertips then tapping it onto your face. Again, she has videos you can watch on YouTube that show how to apply the miracle balms. I hope this helps.

  12. Looking at you in your lovely silk outfit and gorgeous (!) necklace- WOW!
    Aside from how beautiful you are, whenever two great families get together it makes a world of difference. I’m so happy for all of you. ! It’s just the beginning. Enjoy every moment

  13. Thank you, Paulette. We are blessed to have our family extended with more than one set of amazing in-laws. It has been a wonderful journey.

  14. Another fun post! Love the merlo outfit. ❤️ You all are so fortunate to get along, what a blessing for the bride and groom. I almost giggled when I saw the Jones Road products. She is everywhere with her line and it prompted me to dive down a cosmetic rabbit hole. I hope you will give us a tutorial with links that will benefit you. At 73 I am suddenly struggling with foundation and have recently spent too much money and time searching for color, coverage and looking like me. LOVED the Laura Geller baked powder foundation but the color no longer works. 🤷‍♀️

  15. I will attempt to sum up the makeup exploration at some point, Suzi. I am still a Laura Geller fan and also looking at the Boom Products.

  16. Also Just amazed at your perseverance thru the pain. I’m waiting for my second hip replacement and the constant discomfort/pain can be depressing and frustrating. Good support from my primary care doctor so much more positive this time around. 💪🏻. We are woman!

  17. Hear us roar! I do want to clarify that when I say I was on the dance floor, it was more of a shuffle side to side than a dance. While women around me bounced up and down…I did not. Still it was fun!

  18. So much fun to ride along on another chapter in your MOG journey. The merlot outfit and accessories were perfect-you’re nailing this MOG thing! My best tip for enjoying your new makeup is to use MAC Prep+Prime Fix+ setting spray. There are several variations of it but this original version works best in our Texas heat and humidity to keep your face looking fresh all day. It’s a fine mist you spray as a last step, and dries quickly with no visible residue. Twelve hours later your makeup will still be where you put it-so worth the cost!

  19. I’m so enjoying your sharing your mother-of-the-groom journey with us. It sounds like the evening was great medicine for your painful week and you look amazing in your outfit! Love your jewelry and make-up, too – you’re glowing. I haven’t taken the plunge to try Jones Road yet, but your experience has inspired me to do so. I’m so happy for you that you had a wonderful time!

  20. I never comment but have to this time…you look fabulous….very classy and perfect for the occasion! I usually think that your outfits have “too much going” and I suspect that this is because of regional differences in what people wear….the most obvious example of this is resort wear versus what people wear at home but regional differences are just as big.
    I have switched to Jones Road for two reasons….I loved the Bobbi Brown makeup and her new version Jones Road has better “greener” ingredients. The Miracle Balm is designed to be applied in a very specific way and Bobbi has instructional videos. In the jar it is firm and as she says “you have to break the seal”, take some out and warm it in your hands, then put it on your face….mostly Bobbi smooths it with her fingers. It is likely that you will be disappointed if you try to apply it in a more traditional way with tools.

  21. I wasn’t disappointed at all…a reader said that. My hand warmed it. I dress with style adjectives and what I want to communicate with my style may be different from what you want to say with yours.

  22. You looked stunning .that burgundy is a fave color of mine and i do think I ,too ,am an autumn. ..your accessories were gorgeous and made the outfit perfect .
    I often wondered about sillkpants and how they look . On you they are great .Are they washable at all ? .iron free ? Love love the . necklace . And inspired to try your makeup in my quest to look natural but need to conceal flaws !
    I know your shoes were comfy and cutefor you but i always tend to think any sandals with thong like toe makes me feel too casual for dress up like im wearing flip flops .?jennifer,
    Your blog buddy , posted an alternate sandal the shibiver wedge sandal she said was verycomfy …

  23. This is a washable silk and is branded as a washable silk…I now own several items in the line and they wash and wear well. I do air dry them on hangars in my laundry room.
    I did not believe these sandals were too casual for the event as other women there were dressed even more casual than I was. They were very comfortable and I believe they added a nice gold accent. I would not wear them to a dressier occasion. If anyone would like to send me links you want to post, please do it through email. I will handle the link posting in order to protect the blog. I do not wear silver but I am happy to post the shoe if you send the link in my email.

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