Pondering Much More Than An OOTD

Blogging is a curious thing.

Sometime in the next few days, I will write my 200th post on this blog. I began with few expectations and occasionally, wonder why I am here (online)? Of course, I have loved looking at all the outfits…learning from each other’s style talents…and following the wisdom of so many. What has surprised me though, is how close I feel to women I have never laid eyes on!

Blogs are similar to a favorite novel. There are characters that I love and want to read about day after day. And there are some women I have made a deep connection with on levels I never thought could happen in a platform such as this. I guess I should not be surprised… stories are told of those who wrote letters and grew to love each other through those letters like Julia Child and Avis DeVoto.

I have followed one of those love stories on Judith’s blog, Style Crone.  When I read her words last night that Nelson had breathed his last breath, I was devastated. My heart began to ache and carries that ache even now. I have never heard Judith or Nelson’s voice, but somehow, feel as though I have. I can hear them giggling privately over a candlelit dinner in the Broadmoor Hotel in Colorado Springs….I can see them laughing during photo sessions as he was her photographer…I can see her sitting in quiet fear staring at the Rocky Mountains as she patiently waited through each chemo therapy treatment. Through her words, I laughed, cried, and felt pain along with her. I feel as though this amazing man with the 100-watt smile was my friend and that the world has lost someone incredible. Yet, I have never seen him anywhere other than her blog.

A couple of bloggers have discussed the fact the Style Underdog recently returned , but is not taking any comments on her site. Some think her care free/ no fuss plan for blogging is attractive. But, I would have to say, I think that is the primary reason we are all here. To connect. Laugh together. Discuss fashion together. Encourage one another. And feel each other’s hurts when the awful happens.

Yes, blogging is a curious thing.

 Please keep Judith in your prayers.

Judith’s sweet Nelson


  1. Talking about connections, I wrote a private letter to Judith on the day that happened.Somehow I could feel it.
    I agree so much with each and everyone of your words on the blogging connections, Pam
    I wish I could hug you all who touched my heart. Perphaps one day I will travel the world with a case full of kisses and hugs.

  2. I can read blogs on my phone. Which is great cause I rarely miss a post but bad because I rarely comment. But this post, it was beautifully written & it made me cry. So I got out of bed specifically to comment to you. You are right. Some of my closest friends I've met since blogging, and when they experience pain you experience it with them. I am truly sorry for Judith's loss even though I had never seen her blog before today. You are both blessed to have found each others friendship. You've touched me today, thanks for this.

  3. Judith and Nelson and their story has affected so many people. It has been a privilege to be able to read the blog. No other resource has the urgency of a blog. And I would love to have lots more comments, not fewer.

  4. Pam,
    I feel the same way. I sat here in my chair last night and cried about Nelson. Judith has such a gift in the words she uses to share her lovely outfits and the trials she has been facing. There are many blogs that I read but only a few on which I leave comments.
    The internet has provided us with a way to connect with others that we will never meet in real life. I have communicated with people from all over the world and I am so thankful that I have had the chance to get to know so many wonderful people.
    Perhaps this medium will allow us to see that we are all truly a connected part of this huge, yet small, world.

  5. Oh, how very sad. They always looked so happy together. I was afraid it was near when she started going places without him. With his encouragement, of course. He was like that.

  6. Pam, I don't know Judith or her blog; but this is sooooo heart breaking! And you're right on…at the end of the day, our blogs can be used for more than just clothes, but a connection. To others to let them know we get them and really can care about someone we've never met. Love you Pam! ~Serene

  7. Pam–you are so right. I mentioned this to my husband last night before we fell asleep and he gave me a hug…and understood how I felt about this news. That part is crazy too, to be so deeply moved by a life-changing event on a blog that if affects one's real life.

  8. When bloggers share their personal lives it's easy to connect. I've done it through pen palling MANY years ago. Judith is blessed to have friend in 'blogland' and in person to help her in her sorrow. Thanks for sharing with us.

  9. I'm touched by your post and the story without even being familiar with Judith and Nelson. The connections we develop with each other, the empathy and care, this is what defines our humanity. I couldn't imagine not believing people care, I've seen so many strangers lend a hand. This is what being alive is about. We're all holding hands one way or another. Thank you for having such a beautiful heart.

    Congrats on making the LALM, I'm sorry that it's under such sad circumstances but thank you for posting this.
    🙂 f
    The House in the Clouds

  10. Pam~I was in awe of Judith's courage and style through out the whole process. We all knew the end was near–eventhough she never looked it in her photos. I never met her–we connected through the hats.
    Connections are funny. It is about the connections and I feel the same way about SU new "no comments" thing as you do. Without the connections, why bother?

  11. Pam, I am so glad you wrote this post. And dedicated it to judith and to Nelsen. Like you I've never met Judith or Nelsen but they have been living in my heart daily since I've met them on the Style Crone. Judith is so inspiring to me- least of which her ability to share so much with such tremendous grace and dignity. I cry every time I've visited her blog for the past month or so, and took some time out, when I read her last post about Nelsen's passing. This is the power of blogs- the community the sharing and the wonderful opportunity to "meet" souls like Judith and Nelsen who enrich our lives through them. xo. Bella Q

  12. Really touching what you wrote. I also don't get the no comment policy of some bloggers. I no some get a lot of agro and bad vibes from what we can call trolls, hey I got those too, but I do like to concentrate on the nice things, the good stuff that comes from blogging, and it's not the freebies or the giveaways one may win, it's about the connections and the support one can get from people you have never met.

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