No, No Don’t wear that!!!

I began to experiment with fashion in my teens. In looking back, I think it angered, and hurt, my mother that I no longer desired to wear her handmade clothes. I wanted store bought and I wanted to be creative. If I had only understood her connection between self-worth and the sewing machine; and she had understood my desire to be individual and trendy, we might have faced less tears and ugliness.

“That looks like trying to and can’t” was the line I heard over and over again as I walked out of my room. No encouragement. No suggestions. Just disdain. Unfortunately, even at age 58, she is the voice in my head.

Though I have written I now dress for me…FINALLY… there are several mornings I will meet mom in my closet, and those inevitably  are the days, I spend the most time struggling with a look. Standing in front of the mirror, I immediately hear….THAT LOOKS LIKE TRYING TO AND CAN’T. What’s interesting is that even now, I will feel rebelliousness creeping up my spine. First thoughts are often, well I am going to wear this anyway! Then I will process, WHY?, If it looks like trying to and can’t! At that moment, I feel the self-inflicted wounds of doubt….oh, who cares, you can’t do this…your blog is a joke…blah,blah,blah! All the old emotions come flooding in.  But, fortunately, I am now a bit more mature.

Cape: Stein Mart
Skirt: Lane Bryant
GAP T Shirt: $1 at Goodwill

 And, the voice of reason will eventually take over. I usually return to the closet and go to PLAN B. At this moment, I tell the- mother- in- my- head to be silent and I focus on the Foundational Five Questions I devised to help me dress. Today’s outfit is a result of one of those battles. By the way, this is my first time EVER IN MY LIFE to wear booties with a skirt or dress!  The response was good at work…I’m pleased…but I don’t think my mother would have liked it one bit!

Necklace:  Serendipity Clothing SA
Bracelet: Lane Bryant

Does anyone else ever struggle with the mother in your head??

Spanx Tights: Nordstroms
Liz Claiborne Booties:  Marshalls

Trying to and …..CAN!

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Links For Your Holidays!

Edited by: Collette Osuna of Statements in Fashion

At the risk of sounding like a Christmas song, isn’t this the most wonderful time of the year?

I love hearing all the Holiday music playing in the stores! Trees are getting trimmed, gifts are being purchased, and people for the most part, haven’t forgotten the true meaning of the season. I’m taking some time over the next few weeks to re-vamp my closet, bake up some Holiday goodies, and make some new memories with my family and friends. However you may be spending the Holidays, be safe and keep the ones you love near to your heart. I will see you in the New Year!



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