Welcome to a new collaboration with Jennifer of A Well Styled Life and Pam of over50feeling40.  We desire for all of us…the grandmothers, the professionals, the retirees, the volunteers… the fabulous women over 50 …to look and feel our best each and every day.  After years of blogging for this audience, we have heard from so many of you about your discouragement and despondency when you look in the mirror every morning.  But, we both know just how transformative style can be and we hope to encourage you with specific, step-by-step guidelines right here every Sunday.  We would like to see all of us empowered with strength, joy, and confidence!

Each Sunday, we will bring to you a scenario we face each week and show you our step-by-step process as we decide what to wear…you will see on our individual blogs how we handle the challenge and seek our personal sweet spot for the day!
So let’s begin…this week we have lunch with girlfriends at a trendy local café…what will we wear?

First, I always consider the venue when making the what- to- wear decision.  For this challenge, I might be meeting friends at a place such as BIRD BAKERY in San Antonio.  It is in a very popular, vintage-style neighborhood and is causal coffee-shop fun. It sits near several trendy fashion boutiques, making this a stylish setting.  So, first always consider location!

Jennifer and I will approach these moments differently which we hope will give you many ideas and perspectives.  Jennifer is an experienced image consultant…and I am a women who went from sad and frumpy to joyful and confident!

When I turned 50, I experienced an AHH-HA moment (you can see the story HERE ) and in the past 12 years, I believe have completely found my sweet spot style. A style I believe says ME, and sends the messages I desire to say with my look. So, I hope it will help some of you to see how I formerly faced clothing issues in contrast to how I face them now.

OLD FRUMPY THINKING: From ages 38-50, I would either turn down meeting friends for lunch or I would go looking like I did every day…old denim, old ill-fitting denim shorts, capri-pants, and over-sized tops, flip flops…sometimes makeup, sometimes not.  Hair usually pulled back.  Right at age 50, I didn’t care, or try. “These are my girlfriends…they won’t judge me and there is nothing I can do to look as good as they do. I am a mess and everyone knows it.” (how I would think)

NEW HEALTHY THINKING:  I Matter! Life is Short! I want to look and feel good for me…everyday!  Now, I know most “experts” say that women dress for women (not really men), but I dress for me!  I do not let the fact that I am in my sixties, slightly pudgy, and on a very tight budget keep me from communicating with my clothing of choice that I am strong, joyful, confident and fun.

OLD FRUMPY THINKING: This will do….this will have to do. I don’t really care (even though I did really care).

NEW FOUNDATION THINKING:  My new way of dressing often centers around neutral foundations with a statement piece made in the outfit somewhere. So, it might be in an accessory or a topper. For this lunch, I began with a black foundation composed of JOAN VASS LEGGINGS and this JOSEPH RIBKOFF BLACK TUNIC TOP with the interesting buttons down the center.  Little details like the buttons can make a big difference in the total look.  Just wearing a plain, pullover tunic would have taken the outfit to a more casual place than I want to be for this lunch.  Also, the V-neck opens my face and elongates my style (which is more slimming). 

NEW HEALTHY THINKING: Hmmm…popular location and I never know who I will meet or see there…opportunities are around every corner. The venue communicates an artistic, creative vibe…so if I wear this wrap (below), I will fit in like a missing piece of a puzzle. This is a more relaxed; yet polished lunch look.  However, I can wear it for work though maybe not a business presentation.  

OLD FRUMPY THINKING:  I believed everyone thought I was a frump and did not look at what I wore, much less on my feet. I did not get pedicures; and went everywhere in flip flops or athletic shoes.

NEW HEALTHY THINKING:  I matter from the top of my head to the tips of my toes!  I do have feet “issues” however, so for lunch with the peeps I would probably wear leather flats.  If I wear this same outfit to a fashion show or work event, I might wear my new BERNIE MEV HEELS just to pump up the look a bit; yet, remain comfortable.  I am not able to wear the stiletto any longer…but I envy those who do!

OLD FRUMPY THINKING:  Handbags do not make any difference.  The bigger the better.  In fact, there were times I carried a grocery bag…sad, but true. 

NEW HEALTHY THINKING:  Every part of me matters.  If I want to communicate I am competent and strong, then I need a well organized, beautiful bag to complete my look.

TA DA!  Here is one idea of how I might dress for a fun lunch with the girls!  I love this new Soft Surroundings ALLESSANDRA COCOON TOPPER.  It is comfortable and oh so, stylish and artistic.  I great way to make a neutral foundation pop! Look for more ideas on SOFT SURROUNDINGS SWEATER AND CARDIGAN PAGE.

Now, for more direction go join my friend, Jennifer, HERE AT A WELL STYLED LIFE..we will be doing this every Sunday, so please send us your questions or suggestions!  I am at over50feeling40@gmail.com!  We love to hear from you and want all of us to hit our style sweet spot!  Also, look for more guidelines on Thursday on a new Pinterest page.

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Hope your week includes special occasions!

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