Happy Monday, all! Welcome to a discussion of how to build confidence over 60!
This time of our lives over 60 is so important that I want to address ways to live it with a smile on your face.
We are important to the people around us and to ourselves…we owe it to us and everyone else to live an important time of life over 60 with confidence.
I absolutely love it when someone is surprised that I am on the doorstep of turning 70, but it has certainly been a process getting here.
Please allow me to share with you some thoughts this lovely June day on how to build confidence over 60.
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE OVER 60: STEP ONE
STEP ONE to build your confidence over 60 is accept aging …aging is a fact of life, but our attitudes about it are everything and show on our faces and in our bodies.
One book I really enjoyed reading years ago was written by fashion designer Dianne von Furstenberg and titled The Woman I Wanted to Be.
She writes, “I embraced my age and my life. It was the beginning of the age of fulfillment, which continues. Now, in my sixties, I know I have less time ahead and I want to enjoy as much as possible.”
The lesson is to choose fulfillment over 60, and not despondency.
“What is important is to live fully every single day of every period of every age so that no time gets wasted. Because the time goes by faster and faster,” she said.
I say…get up…get dressed…and get out!
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE OVER 60: STEP TWO
STEP TWO to build your confidence over 60 is accept YOU!
Dianne also writes, “Clearly confidence is everything. Confidence makes us beautiful, and it comes from accepting yourself.”
“The moment you accept yourself, it makes everything better.”
In the first picture at the top of the post, you see a woman who:
Has awful funky feet with curved toes and bunions
Has been over weight most of her journey over 50
Has a permanently ripped, weak earlobe and not able to wear earrings
Has skin tags all over, everywhere (thanks mom & dad)
Has slightly crooked teeth and never wore braces. (again, thanks mom & dad)
Has poor eyesight and needs glasses where ever I go.
But you also see a woman who has accepted herself and been determined to live her full life with joy.
One reason Dianne is an enigma in the fashion world is that she determined she would live with a twinkle in her wrinkle….no form of plastic surgery….no botox or fillers.
She writes, “In my older face, I see my life. Every wrinkle, every smile line, every age spot. My life is written on my face. There is a saying that with age, you look outside what you are inside. If you are someone who never smiles, your face gets saggy. If you’re a person who smiles a lot, you will have more smile lines. Your wrinkles reflect the roads you have taken, they form the map of your life. My face reflects the wind and sun and rain and dust from the trips I have taken. My curiosity and love of life have filled me with colors and experiences and I wear them all with gratitude and pride. My face carries my memories. Why would I erase them?”
I have discovered that my smile has others focusing on the smile, and less on the wrinkles around it…perhaps that is the surprise by some of my actual age.
I practice proper skincare daily, but have not and will not follow the choice of fillers of any kind.
I have confidence over 60 and feel no need for them.
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE OVER 60: STEP THREE
STEP THREE to build your confidence over 60 is accept your current roles.
We all have purpose over 60…and most of us wear many hats. Accept those roles…we are very important to the people around us…family, friends, community.
We only have a short time to share our stories, intelligence, purpose, and passions.
Then, dress every day for your roles…dress for the your calendar whether those appointments for the day are big or as small as running errands.
Your appearance communicates confidence and joy to others, and shows you care for yourself.
Choose your five style adjectives and tell them to the world around you with each and every outfit.
I tell others every day that I am polished, creative, approachable, joyful and current…that builds my confidence when my outfit speaks who I am.
I also build confidence by wearing my best colors in my vibrant autumn palette.
Don’t just wear any color because you like it….wear your BEST colors for a confident glow.
I no longer wear hot pink…but I love the color…just not on me.
The Chico’s No Iron Stretch Shirt I am wearing today comes in nine colors, but my best color Is the Banana Leaf.
BTW, this is a great shirt…it really does not wrinkle and is attractive, super comfy and washes well.
I am wearing it with my new favorite jean (I know I have worn these often lately…just love them), the Ming Wang Stretch Denim Slim Leg Pull-On Ankle Jeans.
This lovely tan color is called Limestone. I know they are pricey, but my cost per wear is plunging on these because I do wear them so much.
I am not sure exactly who needed today’s post, but I believe several are out there.
How to build confidence over 60? Accept aging, accept yourself, and accept your roles or life where you are….and then get on with it!
This time of life can be pretty amazing …even in a world that many would label mundane…not so.
Don’t listen to those voices.
KEEP SMILING AND WRINKLE ON!
By Pamela Lutrell
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