Happy 2024, dear friends! Let’s ring in this New Year with a post about how confident personal style reinforces strength for women over 50!
Yesterday, we began a new focus on the word STRENGTH and what it means to us in the second half of life. Getting stronger in many areas is everything to us right now.
Confident personal style is a big part of this equation…it has nothing to do with fashion and everything to do with confidence to be stronger, resilient and relevant in today’s world.
I have written about confident personal style since 2015 after I began to see the value in a unique message sent from my outside.
If you would like to read those posts, just put personal style and/or personal style adjectives Into the search bar of the blog.
Many of you are thinking…OK, I have heard this message from Pamela before…but stick with me today for some new information.
CONFIDENT STYLE REINFORCES STRENGTH FOR WOMEN OVER 50
When you leave your house with confident personal style, you are a stronger person and more likely to speak with others…do more with your career…do more for volunteer work…or even more for family.
A woman dressed in confident personal style is more likely to be respected, taken seriously, trusted with responsibility and listened to…these are simply true facts….no matter your age.
Confident personal style opens doors for the strong woman and can lead you to new opportunities In 2024.
You just never know where an encounter at the grocery or pharmacy might lead.
The most important question you ask before stepping outside is….WHAT DOES THIS OUTFIT SAY ABOUT ME?
When you can answer that question with confidence in what you are wearing…then you are good to go.
Others will answer the question for you without you saying a word…that is just how it is.
Now, remember I am talking about your life outside of where you live…of course, wear those grungies for working in the yard or cleaning out closets.
But take seriously dressing to meet friends for lunch or running errands or traveling.
CONFIDENT STYLE REINFORCES STRENGTH BY CONTROLLING THE MESSAGES
I have written for years about developing your own unique personal style with the use of style adjectives….you are sending a message, whether you like it or not.
Style adjectives really are the easiest way to develop your own unique style (unique just to you) and to have a successful wardrobe that works and is not full of failures or is overwhelming.
Many of us in the second half of life are transitioning our style and this is a great opportunity for you to decide what you want to tell the world about you…without saying a word.
After I left my professional office life during COVID and came home to work, I tweaked my adjectives to be creative, polished, approachable, joyful and current.
I have good reasons behind each adjective and they work as a unit for me. But, honestly, three or four adjectives will do it.
I look in the mirror every time I dress and ask…does this look speak my five adjectives…and If it does, I am good to go.
That is how I develop Pam-style.
Also, if I am shopping, the garments must work within these five adjectives and, also, be in my warm, autumn palette.
I learned early on that if I control what I am saying with what I choose to wear then I have a style unique to me…and I save money and time by not buying pieces which do not work for me.
Many in this audience have had success by doing the same thing with the adjectives. I have those adjectives posted in my closet and in my office.
Adjectives can be subjective and that is why dressing with style adjectives can be very personal to each one of us.
Christmas Day one of my children called a look “flashy” which she did not mean in a good way, but the recipient of the clothing embraced “flashy” and liked that a gift spoke that adjective.
You have to go with what YOU want to say about you and not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. Do not try to be anyone but YOU.
Once you decide what adjectives you want to say with your confident personal style, then weed out the wardrobe to only include the garments that speak those adjectives.
CONFIDENT STYLE REINFORCES STRENGTH: MY TWEAKS
Two of my grandchildren are assisting with an illustration here!
I am keeping my adjectives the same right now because they have built confidence and that builds strength.
However, I noticed over the past year that when I express the adjective, “creative,” with accessories, rather than garments with prints, that I feel more confident.
I have been wearing the majority of my prints less and less.
So, for now, I am moving all of the prints into one area of the closet. I will still wear what I own, and it will take a pretty fabulous piece for me to purchase a new print.
I will be looking at them with a discerning eye.
I love wearing my accessories and speaking that I am creative with them and that balances the word “polished,” which also keeps the creative me under control.
When I go out to try on clothing for YOU, I will be trying on what is available in prints…just like I try on clothing in your colors…so you can see what is in the stores.
If I fall for something in a print, I will let you know….and I will continue to occasionally wear some of what I own.
But, lately when I put on many of those prints, the clothing does not say STRENGTH to me…we will see what happens with that together here on the blog.
CONFIDENT STYLE REINFORCES STRENGTH: NO EXCUSES
Since I have been writing about this…and I said it has been a long time…I have heard many excuses…a few examples are:
- I am too old to care: My response is that at 70, I am going to go out and look my best and enjoy this very short life as much as I can. I have experienced personally how doors will open later in life when you care.
- I can only think of three, so I am not going to do it: My response is that is fine…it is your choice…but three works great…just start with three.
- I am classic and only want to be classic: My response is to define “classic” in adjectives…what does classic style say about you. Then dress with that answer in mind.
- I cannot do this because I need help: My response is that I am here to help, email me firstname.lastname@example.org
- I am waiting to lose weight: My response is that when I began to dress the body I had with my adjectives, it was a motivation to actually lose the weight and take better care of me. Don’t wait.
- It is too expensive to begin something new with my clothes: My response is that you can look your best at any price point (even Goodwill) and you will save money when you develop a solid confident personal style.
- I don’t want to look like you: My response is PERFECT! I want you to look like you, so select what YOU want your clothing to say about YOU!
CONFIDENT STYLE REINFORCES STRENGTH: 2024 CAN BE A YEAR OF NEW EXPERIENCE
Building a confident personal style with style adjectives can be fun and lead to new experiences.
It doesn’t matter what age you are. Actually, I know more women with fabulous confident personal style in their 70s and beyond than younger ones.
I believe our generations have learned the power and success that comes with communicating confidence and strength with our style.
It also results in smiling more.
Again, if you are new, we do talk about clothing A LOT, because this audience loves it and many are here for it.
I am also tweaking some content this week, so tell me what you think. Friday is when we will discuss physical strength.
If you are open to sharing, please tell us…what does your unique personal style say about you? Or share your own style adjectives.
Thanks for starting the new year here…and make sure that you….
STAY STRONG AND KEEP SMILING!!
By Pamela Lutrell
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