7 steps for confident style over 60

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1. Very encouraging , Pamela !

2. Glad you enjoyed the post!

3. Pam – Thank you for sharing the “7 Steps” today. I especially enjoyed One Definition of Confidence and will be sharing with friends and family.

   Wishing you and all your subscribers a wonderful day!

4. Thank you, Janet! Have a day full of smiles!

5. Pamela,
   What an encourager you are! May I call you later? I ask about the gold sandals in the first image? What brand and style are they?

6. Hi Linda…the sandals are THE COZY SLIDE sandal at sasshoes.com in Copper. I will have another SAS post up on Thursday for everyone…such a great shoe line for those of us with foot challenges.
   My code right now is SASPAM10 to save $10 off your purchase at SAS.
   I would prefer you email me at over50feeling40@gmail.com. I am slammed today, but will respond to your email later.
   Thanks!

7. I really like the confidence quote. In my own life, I’ve found that internal confidence leaves me more available to have concern and care for others.

8. I have discovered that as well, Kim. I am more likely to reach out to others when I am confident about me. Important point.

9. I’m always so pleased when a younger person comments on my style. One thing I try to do is combine something I like but is out of date (a statement big pendant, for example, which I love to wear) with other components that are current. That way it looks like the deliberate choice it is. I’m going to dispute a little having to dress to look slimmer. While I agree that can boost confidence, we also sometimes can and should wear clothes that we adore, or that help us build outfits. A wise woman named Pam once told me to go ahead and buy the white jeans I’d wanted for years, even though they made me look larger. I’ve done it again with big shirts this summer, just because I like their effortless (if shapeless :)) look. I do agree that correctly fitted clothes are the most important (fashion-based) thing to look your best. As for the rest of what you said, one word: bravo!

10. Thanks, Linda. I also own oversized garments that put a smile on my face, but I tried diffferent sizes to get the best fit in them. I believe that can be done. I think wearing those designs because you love them is different from wearing them to hide yourself which means that woman feels bad about herself. Accept who you are and wear what makes you confident and joyful. Like you do!

11. Thank you for starting my day full of confidence! Have a happy day full of blessings!

12. You as well, Beverley!

13. Love this post, thank you for sharing. I always take something away from your posts, but this one, I think I’ll pin it near my closet to refer to. The most important emotion that I feel when I go out is comfort. Now I’m sure that’s means different things to different people, but in my case, it must fit correctly, the colors must look good on me, the style be relatively current and most of all I feel comfortable wearing the items which translate to confidence.

14. Great article!!! Being long retired, I am more casual, but do try to be chic, casual, confident and comfortable. My style is a bit different than yours , I tend to neutrals, jeans, sneakers, & t-shirts, well . , I’m also on a weight loss journey which is challenging when you’re in your 70’s.. thank you for inspiring my mornings

15. Happy to help, Rhoda! Comfort is something I believe we all consider…I am most comfortable when I look my confident best!

16. Thank you for sharing and being here, Nancy!

17. Thank you for offering this post. I fall short on a few of these steps. I’m retired from the corporate world of suits and coat dresses where navy, black and gray was the palette. An off-duty wardrobe was never pursued because there was little opportunity for a work and life balance. Now retired, figuring out how to dress beyond the suit is a struggle. I do try with a record of a few hits and many misses. Often, before reading this post, I felt I ended up looking too dressy for everyday. Your post is encouraging and pointed to some things to aim for. Also, your post revealed that just because I don’t dress in the style of others doesn’t mean I’m too dressy. Perhaps I should stop judging myself against others. Perhaps I’m just reflecting who I am and want to project. My clothing is practical. All are machine washable with items coordinating with 3-5 other garments. The bulk is Eileen Fisher with Johnny Was sparking her basics, especially during Spring/Summer. Arch supports are built into my pointed toe flats. Maybe I’m OK.

18. Oh Pamela….right on! Clothes that fit properly are an extension of your goals for the day; look happy and pulled together and it’s amazing how you feel that way inside! Then go out and be happy for the day the Lord has provided 🥰
    Your navy top and slacks are so so cute! Where is the top available?
    Sandra Winfield

19. You are OK, Peggy…in so many ways. And the fact you have suit pieces and a little Johnny Was means you and I are probably similar in many ways with our style. The reasons I still own so many blazers is that they are always in style with your jeans…I love that look so much. We all as women shoot ourselves in the foot with comparisons and attempting to look like someone else who may not be us at all. Please consider my advice to think about what you want your clothing to say about you to others without speaking a word…there are so many adjectives and if we target the top ones…3-5…and dress to speak those adjectives every day, then you develop Peggy-style. My husband loves to dress up even in a business world that now dresses down. He was getting dressed after a workout recently in the company gym. A young man looked over and said, “Wow, so sorry you have to work in one of the groups that demands you dress up. That sucks.” The young man was pulling on shorts and a tee shirt for his workday. Mr. B of course informed him that he chooses to dress nicer at work because it sends a message to others about him.
    This was at the same time I ran into a woman at an event who works with my husband and she proceeded to tell me how well respected he is. I am certain he sends that message with his choice of wardrobe as well as his intelligence and diligence. He has chosen not to follow the trend at work of dressing like you are on vacation.
    Be you…at first it takes courage…but when you own it with confidence then it is a part of who you are. You are OK

20. Hi Sandra…there are two navy tops in this post. Both are from Talbots. But the one with the matching linen pants was last spring at Talbots. It is one of my favorite outfits now.
    Thanks!

21. Thank you for the tips- such great reminders. You have a special group of people here. I always feel that as a group, we are safely on the same page. I have always been a confident dresser, but lately I have been focusing on my drooping neck and eyelids. I was chatting with a friend (who goes back to ninth grade) recently and we were commenting on our body changing and how to overcome the little things that bug us. She said, “I have been sitting across the table from you for an hour and I haven’t even noticed your neck! Look at mine! Same thing! “ Well, I hadn’t noticed hers. But there we were. Smiles, laughs, curiosity, and a positive attitude are healthy and the best diversion for strength and confidence. Thanks, Pamela, for caring and bringing us together.

22. And thanks for joining in, Deborah. This is a very special group of ladies. I appreciate each one.

23. Pam, this post is GOLD!! Some thoughts to refer back to often. Thank you!!

24. You made me smile, Marcia. Thank you so much.

25. I’m so glad I took the time to open this morning‘s post, even though I’m rushing around getting ready for an initial meeting with a bride and her very posh wedding coordinator. The outfit I’m wearing today is identical to the first photo in your post! (The navy embroidered top from Chico’s with the barley J Jill jeans we both bought last year.) Thank you for these thoughts on embodying confidence, which were very timely as I head into this meeting. So much wisdom in your words, as always. The best thing my therapist ever taught me was that “I am enough.“ I often say that to myself when I’m feeling like my chosen outfit doesn’t hide my perceived body flaws as well as I’d hoped, or when I am going into a situation in which I feel “lesser than.“ I hope that my smile is always what makes a better first impression than my outfits.

26. Yes, Lori…the importance of your smile is everything. Hope the meeting goes well.

27. Pamela, you are a gem. And, your response to my comment is very thoughtful and valued. Sharing your life experiences, along with your husband’s is helpful. You are right, ” … you and I are probably similar in many ways with our style.” The major difference: I’m short and pretty much always wear a monotone base layer because of it. And, I’ve a ways to go to dress to meet my style adjectives, especially for Fall/Winter. Your blog continues to be a tremendous help. Your posts have persuaded me to venture into color and pattern. For me, an enormous step forward and one that has been rewarded with compliments. Your response, today, is a boost to my confidence. Thank you.

28. I realized that I have had the same “uniform” since college for weekends and every day since retirement – jeans and a solid color tee. The color and length of the jeans and tee sleeves vary with the season. Although I do feel confident in that because I’ve been wearing it for half a century, you have inspired me to try to throw on a topper or accessories to take it up a notch when I leave the house. I own some of those things, but it was easier to run to the store or other errands in whatever I’m wearing around the house. I think it will be fun to try new things and get out of my fashion rut. I really have been enjoying your blog and just got done making a big batch of your enchilada sauce that you posted a while ago.

29. You are welcome, Peggy! One day at a time….

30. YUM….I love that enchilada sauce…sound so good. I am excited for you, Mary Jo. Little changes of fun like accessories and new toppers can really add to our confidence. Plus that is how to enjoy and have fun with fashion. I love to look different every day…and I do most days.
    Thanks for being here.

31. Fabulous posts. And such great comments from this group. This is a really special group. Every focus step you name is important. I’m going to make a little sign with bullet points and put it up in my closet. Today I’m dressed for yard work and puppy duty. Still I did my makeup and hair, I’m wearing my good colors. I’m very casual but not sloppy and would not be embarrassed to see one of my neighbors or a delivery person. Thanks for the great reminders. Happy Tuesday.

32. You are right, Kathie…this is a really special group. I am dressed the same way today as I am working at my desk all day! If I run out, I will tweak things a bit.

33. Such an uplifting post! And all of it is true. When you mentioned focusing on the good, I thought about my hair. It is white, & I wear it chin length with bangs. I get compliments all the time, & they make me feel so good. Years ago, I heard a personal stylist make a comment that somewhere along the line, we have confused casual with sloppy. That comment has stuck with me. Some of it has to do with fit, & some of has to do with attitude. No matter our age, we should never give up & think we don’t matter, so if you see someone, smile & if you can, offer a sincere compliment. It just might make their day.

34. Lately, things going on in life cause me to see the importance of the things you mentioned that aren’t necessarily related to fashion. Fashion is great and fun, but when life is heavy and you still want to be at your best, those other things really come to the forefront. I enjoyed this post!

35. That is so true, Becky! I love to compliment other women and watch them light up!

36. I was so happy to see your name pop up! Love having you here!

37. Wonderful words of wisdom. Like others, I noted the 7 steps and will refer back. Pam, you are the kind of person who, if I were to see in a store or other public place, I would immediately think, now there is someone I would like to meet! When we step out in confidence, even if staying in our own home, we can then focus on others as well. I also loved the comment that casual does not mean sloppy. May God bless all of us!

38. Thank you, Mary! How much fun it would be to have all of you to dinner… the evening would go on until dawn!

39. What a timely post! Even though it’s not exactly spring yet here in the Northeast, it’s getting there. The daffodils and forsythia are outstanding this year. I’m adding color with quilted vests still (lol), but one is bright green and another is a pretty blue. I was in CVS last week and there were three tired looking over 50 women in front of me in line. I was glad I’d taken the time because I did not look or feel exhausted. I wasn’t thinking about confidence, but in retrospect, that had a lot to do with my attitude.

40. Hi Maeve, I am allergic to oak so when it buds out in the spring there are many days I start the day dragging and sneezing. But when I go ahead and fix up to go out somehow I do feel better. Thanks for your CVS observation!

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